REST with Sarah K Jones
Rest can be as simple as a stroll on the beach, but if you aren't in tune with your body, it may take a walk into the shadows to get there.
Sarah K Jones, a shadow-work evangelist, understands that wisdom often awaits us in the shadows. In this interview, she shares the wisdom she gained after a total meltdown. Plus, she explains why we should let go of expectations.
WHAT ARE YOUR RITUALS TO RELAX, REJUVENATE, AND RESTORE YOURSELF?
I absolutely MUST take time in nature every day.
I am in the habit of getting up 4.30/5am [for someone who used to sleep in til 10am, that’s a big deal!] and taking a long 90 minute walk on the beach near me.
On a day like this I will also have a 20 minute nap, set with an alarm, about 10am.
This resets me and gives me an immense amount of energy for the day, whilst feeling really calm and centred.
I also pause regularly throughout the day, perhaps even take a second 20 minute nap by about 2pm.
Consistently it is proven to me that the more I pause, rest, nap and unplug the more productive and efficient my days are – WITHOUT any push or struggle.
I am sure from the outside I look really lazy and unfocussed, but the proof in my work stands for itself ;)
What is your advice to empower women to make time for (guilt-free) rest?
Two pieces of advice actually!
1. It’s not worth the struggle and the perceived ‘glory’ of the pushing 'til you drop thing.
The competition to be more busy or more tired than others is simply a rort.
Sure it might get some sympathy for a bit, but at the end of the day, a martyr never experiences true peace.
And REST can let you pause long enough to find out what truly brings you peace.
2. Drop the expectations.. especially the ones you have about yourself and your ‘performance’ in life.
Getting everything right is not something worth aspiring to because life just happens to mess things up every now and then.
This is where the guilts are born .. in these expectations and ideals of perfection.
So start by getting used to the mess that is, and lean into it.
And here’s the irony – the more you rest, the more life just seems to work itself out!
Please describe a time when you had to surrender to rest.
My entire 20s I pushed myself viciously.. I worked full time plus two casual weekend jobs.
I took over-the-counter guarana pills to give me more energy.
I went to the gym 4-5 times a week.
Meanwhile under the surface, there was a storm brewing.
All this busyness and rushing meant I was ignoring some pretty big emotional turbulence that I was completely unaware of.
By the time I was 27, I had what I would dub a complete + utter meltdown – I combusted, my body stopped working [literally, I couldn’t get out of bed!] and I got deeply depressed.
When my grandfather passed away, it all came undone.
I remember going to a doctor and getting all my bloods done for any deficiencies – because why on earth would I be so tired, I thought.
Turns out I was in remission from glandular fever, whilst not even knowing I had it in the first place months before.
This was a turning point for me when I started to learn how to rest, to pause and really FEEL myself and my body’s needs.
It was a frightening thought that I was so sick yet I was pushing so hard I didn’t notice the all the signs.
And I kept going so hard until my body literally stopped in its tracks.
How do you tune into your body's wisdom to know when to rest?
I ask it. Literally.
And if I am feeling unfocussed or I can’t get clarity on something, I lie down or I take a gentle stroll through the bush or on the beach.
Having let go of external expectations as well – my relationship with my body is much more intimate and tuned in than it used to be.
I have chosen to put my body as the top priority, right alongside my heart + my soul.
Sarah K is an accomplished spiritual healer and intuitive reader. In addition to being a mentor to coaches and healers, she is also a mistress of women’s ceremonies, custodian and co-founder of Sovereign Business, and creatrix of the Empower + Awaken Chakra Course for Women.